Authoritarian parenting style
This parenting style does not take into consideration the feelings, needs, or wants of the children. It is a ‘do as I say, no matter what’ approach to raising kids. Compromise and teaching children right from wrong is not seen within this parenting style. Punishment, negative consequences, and fear are used.
Authoritative parenting style
Parents consider the feelings, needs, and wants of their children. The emotional needs of kids are considered of high priority as right from wrong is taught through discussions and kindness. Compromise happens regularly, questions are answered, and parents are genuinely responsive to their children. Kids are treated in a nurturing and supportive manner.
Permissive parenting style
Expectations of children’s behavior are low. Children in these families typically get what they want and are treated with high levels of compassion and empathy. Parents in this role are typically observed as acting as their children’s friend instead of their parent. They place very few demands on their children.
Uninvolved parenting style
The basic needs of children are normally met, however expectations and demands for children of uninvolved parenting are extremely poor. Parents of these children appear to be disinterested in their children’s lives and don’t play a major role. In some instances these parents may neglect their children.
Secure attachment is the healthiest form of attachment that children can have with their parents/caregivers. To create a secure attachment in children, parents must consistently respond to their children’s needs quickly and in loving ways. The most important time to begin this consistent response, is when infants cry. If their needs are met each and every time, a secure attachment is well on its way to forming.
As a result, we see young children becoming upset when their parents leave and happy when they return. They truly prefer the company of their parents. Securely attached children feel safe, trust their parents, have a strong self-esteem, show empathy to others, are less aggressive, act in mature ways, and take healthy risks.
In adulthood, we continue to see individuals who have high self-esteem, show empathy toward others, share their feelings, and have healthy and loving relationships.